Why should you vote?


Here is a great blog entry about voting. Great read…check it out

Why should you vote?.


Five Simple Reasons NOT TO GOSSIP

Accomplished individuals do not talk trash about others so that they can get ahead.  And they don’t listen to those who do.

Kind speech is a better option

Here’s 5 simple reasons NOT TO indulge in gossip:

1.  Gossip actually changes the way we see people.

This is actually really scary.  It’s a good reason to be very choosy about what kind of information you’ll listen to–and what kind of information you’ll share with others. Even if you are not doing the talking….listening to gossip about an individual will change your view of who they are. I don’t even stand around the water cooler while the gossip is being spewed. I kindly bow out of any conversation that turns to speaking about someone who isn’t there to partake in the conversation also.

2.  Gossip produces long-term unhappiness.

A good gossip session can be pleasurable at the time, but that feeling of camaraderie and being in-the-know doesn’t last, and soon gives way to guilt.  Over the long-term gossip makes everyone unhappy. Not to mention…this goes back to the energy I always speak of. You get what energy you put out. You can only sow the seed you planted. Think about that.

3.  Gossip makes you look bad.

When you gossip about others, your listeners perceive you to have whatever qualities you are attributing to others.  So if you’re criticizing someone for being irresponsible, your hearers will perceive you to have that same flaw.  (This phenomenon is known as spontaneous trait transference–and it applies to positive comments as well. Excuse me getting a little psychological on you all). If that theory doesn’t work for you let’s go with this: We tend to point out faults in others than we see in ourselves. So take a long look in the mirror.


4.  People won’t trust you if you gossip.

If you’re gossiping to someone, it’s not much of a stretch for them to imagine you gossiping about them. That’s straight to the point.

5.  Gossip is just not nice (but you already knew that).

If you do hear gossip, let it end with you.  Choose a kinder subject, and move on. Trust me….many times friends bring up gossip (even though they may claim that’s not what it is) and I kindly move the conversation back to myself, a business idea, etc.

Think you’re not guilty of gossip?  Well, maybe that’s true.  But I’d challenge you to review my “Six Cop Outs People Use to Claim They Are Not Gossiping (when they really are)”  just to be sure. That blog entry is coming soon!!!! Follow me on Twitter @megamotivator and on instagram @MegamotivatorNay to keep up to date.

Seasonal Relationships

Stop allowing seasonal people to dictate your next season in your life. These friendships can have a profound effect on you and your life.  But once that season of life is over and things changes, so can the relationship.

We need to be okay with this.

I think all too often, we hold on for dear life because we feel indebted to these friends.  We have gotten so comfortable with them  being in our lives we can’t imagine life without them.

That’s not God’s design.  Instead our loving Father intentionally places these friends in our lives when we need them. He provides us with the love, support and encouragement we need from others during that time. God uses them to be his hands and feet so we can stand through whatever storm we are facing.

The seasonal friendship are actually a blessing.

Sooner or later, however, that season ends.  And by divine design, so does that friendship.


Many times we continue to grow and move on to complete the mission that God has set out for us. If you know the vision God has given you in life, don’t be afraid to cut those chords from folks who are not growing you. I don’t give too many people the privilege to enter my life. I am friendly and cordial to all but I do not associate with people who are not moving in the same direction that I am moving in….towards success.


Proverbs 13:20 Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise,
but the companion of fools will suffer harm.


A Family that Prays Together Stays Together

The Prayer of Agreement in Matthew 18:19 is a wonderful one and it is widely popular in Christian circles but before we talk about what it is, let’s talk about what it is not.

1)   It is not a formula. A formula says: if I do these three things in this order and in this way I’m going to have predictable results. It’s not a scientific formula like 2 hydrogen and one oxygen makes water.

2)   The prayer of agreement is not a way to manipulate God into doing things OUR way. You can say “I really want a BMW so if my mate agrees with me and we pray together for a BMW God will give it to me”. NOPE…that’s not how it goes!

I point these things out because I’ve heard that various Christian teachings come in and go out of style and the misuse of this one has certainly had its heyday. While the truth of God’s Word remains the same for all time, it is our tendency as human beings to slant and manipulate scriptures to our own purposes if we aren’t careful. I’ve misused scriptures myself and I have also experienced the sorry results when my prayers were met with failure: disappointment, discouragement and disbelief.

Now that we have that out of the way, let’s look at the true power of this type of prayer. And you better believe that agreeing together for God’s purposes on the earth is very powerful! When two or more believers in Jesus Christ interlock their hearts into agreement with each other and with God for answers they have added a red bull, bounce off the wall, turbo boost type of energy to their prayers. Think about the power and effect of harmony among singing duet versus a soloist; a trio over a duet and a whole choir over a quartet.

The reason for this increased power is explained in the verse of scripture following Matthew 18:19. Verse 20 says; “For where two or three have gathered together in My name, there I am in their midst. “The presence of Jesus is the important part. It’s actually the critical detail that everything else hangs on. That’s what produces the answers to prayer that we are looking for. If we ask for his input.

Suppose you are sitting in your living room with a fellow Christian getting ready to pray about something very important.  Then Jesus walks into the room and you can both see him with your own two eyes. Would you just ignore him and come to your own agreement about the situation and pray? I wouldn’t. I would check with Jesus and find out what he thinks is the best outcome and then we both pray in agreement with him.

“Well Shanay if he’s not in the room how can I ask?” Of course he is in the room; he shows up when we gather in his name. That’s the promise he gives us in verse 20. But since we can’t see him with our natural eyes we often just skip the part about finding out what he wants and go right into agreement for whatever we want and then claim that this is going to come to pass based on our fulfillment of Matthew 18:19.  (feel free to read that twice). Use the prayer properly and great things will happen.

Here’s a verse I really like:

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed.  If one person falls, the other can reach out and help.  But someone who falls alone is in real trouble…A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.  Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NLT)

What happens when two people come together in unity and prayer?

  • Victory is Experienced (Exodus 17:12)
  • Increased Power is Experienced (Deuteronomy 32:30)
  • The Right Decisions are Made (Acts 1:24)
  • The Holy Spirit is Ushered In (Acts 2:1-3)
  • Ensure the Presence of Jesus (Matthew 18:20)
  • Prayers are Answered (Matthew 18:19)
  • Miracles Occur (Acts 3:1-9)
  • Needs are Supplied (Acts 4:34-37)
  • Brings Safety and Restoration (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)
  • They Help Each Other to Succeed (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)
  • They Conquer Their Enemies (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12)

As usual….feel free to leave comments 🙂